Brent, I am having a similar issue.
It’s so frustrating, I’ll pick through a piece 3 or 4 times just fine and step up to playing along with the video and it’s like my fingers are tied together.
I’ve been thinking that one issue is that I can’t see. Fretting is clear, but the difference between the strings is off due to depth perception. I’m thinking of coloring a short section of the strings with a paint pen. E- brass A-red D-brass G-green B-blue E-brass
My hope is that when my fingers get lost, the color pattern will help, at least until my brain learns the pattern.