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@Sandie You’re not alone when it comes to having smaller hands. Many of us do, including many men, as you’ve seen from Chuck’s reply to you. Small hands can be a challenge, but they can’t be a decrement, because there are small children who can play rather intricate chords and songs on guitars. The difference is that they are flexible and they use a smaller neck and scaled guitar for their size.
There are various stretches you can do to increase the flexibility of your muscles and tendons and allow you to move your fingers and jointers further apart as you move along in your guitar journey. Research differenct options through Google and on YouTube for finger stretches and strengthening. Also, take the TAC stretching course and practice it daily before and after playing.
One way I practice stretching my fingers is start with my index finger on the 8th fret of the high e. Then take the middle finger starting on the 7th fret of the high e and touch it on the 7th then the 6th, then the 7th then the 5th, 7th then the 4th (all while keeping the index finger rooted on the 8th fret of the high d string). Go as far as you comfortably can without lifting the index finger. Then do it with the middle finger 7th fret, 6th fret; 7th fret 5th fret; 7th fret 4th fret; Then do it with the ring finger and again 7th, 6th; 7th 5th, 7th 4th. When you can easily do this exercise without lifting the index finger, then move the index finger up to the 7th fret and plant it. Then start the process over but now go from the 6th & 5th, 5th & 4th, 4th & 3rd, and so on. This will gradually stretch your fingers and hands.