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Feeling sad and stuck
Feeling stuck There may not be advice for this discussion. A few days ago I lost my husband of 52 years. He would play his drum, me my guitar. I do not seem to be able to pick up that guitar since. Has anyone felt this? If so how did you move on with your music. If not it’s ok. If you have someone that special in your life, treasure them. TY!
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This is so difficult JoAnn and you have my prayers and sympathy. I don’t have an answer except that you need time to work out how to deal with this.
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Sooo sorry to hear of your loss Joanne. As with Brian P , thoughts and prayers are with you at such a sad time. Clearly your love extended to sharing music in a beautiful way together. thats special. Be gentle and easy on yourself. Hopefully your love and the transcendence music can bring will bring you together again in spirit. take care.
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@ladyjo516 , I send you my sincere condolences. I read your post with my wife, we both felt the strong emotion connected to your situation, we hugged and shared a tear. Thank you for the reminder. I am with Bernie on being gentle with yourself and Brian P in taking your time to workout your grief. Today I grieve with you. I virtually reach out to hold your hand. My wife and I send you our love and send your husband that love as well. You are both on a new journey. It is my belief there are no ends only new beginnings. There are some songs, when I play them, I get super emotional when I think about those folks no longer with me. It is not an unwelcome feeling it is cathartic. Perhaps in time this release will find you. Peace to you.
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cherish each other… and TY! 💔
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Sorry for you loss, JoAnn 🙁
-M
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yes. he’s not lost. you don’t have to move on. he’s a part of you and you a part of him. his life grew in you as yours grew in him. breathe and play together with the memory of his beat. be not afraid. Plus, we are never alone. Our creator is, always has been, and always will surround us through this fire we call life.
FORGED NOT BURNT!
grace and peace to you,
Trace Dexter.
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TY!! 💔
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My deepest heartfelt sympathy to you @ladyjo516 and your family. I understand how it feels to lose a loved one, words alone cannot bring the comfort you desire at this time. Knowing that, I would like to offer a thought. I have faith that we’ll all see our loved ones again – I truly believe it. May peace be with you soon
BB
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Thank You for your kindness. What a wonderful community. TY
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Hi JoAnn,
So sorry for your loss. It’s understandable that you don’t feel like picking up the guitar right now. I’m pretty sure playing guitar is not one of the stages of grief. For me, I wrote songs that I sang for both my mother and father’s funerals. It was a great way for me to channel what I was feeling. Though it has been over 20-30 years, I can still play both songs even though it was a one time event. Maybe you can find a way to honor him in a similar way. I know it meant a lot to me to even be able to do it in such a short span of time, and it meant a lot to my family. If it’s not possible, just take your time and allow yourself to grieve at whatever pace you need to. We’ll be here when you’re ready to resume.
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TY! so much and many blessings to you 💔
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Hi JoAnn – from the TAC Team & our wonderful TAC Family, please know that we are holding you up in thought and prayer, and are so very sorry for your loss. May the love going out to you from us, and the healing power of music, give you great comfort at this time.
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TY!! I am hoping I can find the strength to play again, and many blessings to you for your kind words! 💔
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Hi JoAnn,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I can only relate to what you must be feeling through my own experience, and that is that grief moves at its own pace. When you’re ready, when there’s room in your life and in your heart for the guitar again, you can go to it, and it will be there for you. Until then, it can wait while you take care of you. It won’t mind a bit.
Much love,
tails
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TY from the bottom of my so broken heart Many blessings to you
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@JoAnn M My heart goes out to you because of your loss. We are here for you when you’re ready to return. May God grant you peace in these sad times. 😥😥😥
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Very sorry to hear of your loss. There aren’t any words better than the condolences shared here from our TAC family.
But I hope the time comes soon when you’re ready to pick up your guitar and play- even just a little. Thru the tears may come a smile somehow, because in your heart you will know he is still right there alongside you- and smiling.
This TAC community/family is indeed wonderful!
Mark J
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@JoAnn M, My deepest sympathy! I am keeping you in my prayers. Special TAC Hugs…..
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JoAnn, I have not met you so I hope you don’t mind that I am sending love to your aching heart. Andy
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TY !!
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So deeply sorry for the pain you are feeling right now. Time will help but it will also mean lots of moments in between that are hard. Don’t focus on what you aren’t doing. Just focus on taking care of you and know that it is okay to grieve. Many hugs
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