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  • Summer’s End by John Prine

    Posted by JanetW on October 4, 2023 at 3:56 pm

    My sister and I just took a trip down to Oklahoma to work on our Dad’s house. He has Alzheimer’s and is now in Memory Care at age 90. He had lots of “friends” in the small town where he lived who took advantage of him, took lots of his money, and stole all his guns and guitars. While we were clearing out his house, I found this 12-string in its case hidden under a pile of clothes. I was really surprised and happy when I lifted the case and could tell it wasn’t empty like all the others! I’m still working on this song but thought I’d share anyway. -JanetW


    peter_m replied 8 months, 1 week ago 9 Members · 13 Replies
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  • TMutter

    October 4, 2023 at 5:51 pm

    beautiful that you are looking after you Dad as best as possible and tragic story of peoples greed. Wonderful performance of one of Johns best songs. I hope playing your Dads guitar brings you peace and joy.

    • JanetW

      October 4, 2023 at 6:20 pm

      It has been a hard several years getting things under control and my Dad in a safe home after all these issues. Thank you for the kind words.

  • charlie_d

    October 5, 2023 at 5:55 am

    Hello, @JanetW . I’m sorry to hear about your Dad and how some people have taken advantage of him in his condition. The 12-string sounds lovely and is a wonderful keepsake for the family. Thanks for sharing that great song with us!

  • albert_d

    October 5, 2023 at 7:29 am

    Last few years my wife and I went through transitioning both our Moms into independent living facilities then skilled nursing then hospice and finally to their reward. It’s a serious and sobering journey. But caregiving was also its own strange reward. The 12 string will be a great reminder and comfort. Thanks for keeping that 5th commandment. You make the community better for it.

    • JanetW

      October 5, 2023 at 10:02 am

      @albert_d, you are right about it being a journey. It is a real relief that he is somewhere nice and safe now even though we don’t think he knew us when we visited. The guitar is a 2012 Taylor. I had to get some cracks repaired and they set it up very nicely so it is easy to play. Thank you for your message.

  • John_Bolling_Hall

    October 6, 2023 at 5:06 am

    Very nice, I love anything John Prine.

  • Bill_Brown

    October 6, 2023 at 7:28 am

    👏👏👏 @JanetW , a nice performance and great song choice👍 I’m happy to see and hear you play the Taylor 12 string that was your Dad’s. I hope you have many years of joy and fun with it🎸 Thank you for sharing your story and posting this video🙏

    • JanetW

      October 8, 2023 at 3:56 pm

      Thank you!

  • Guitargeezer-Jack

    October 8, 2023 at 6:49 am

    Your account is far too common. As a RN who worked with patients and their families dealing with dementia, as well as seeing my own father’s memory impairment due to brain cancer, the cruelty of evil actors is more prevalent than most people realize. I not only witnessed “friends” deceive seniors but telemarketers and unethical trades people taking advantage of these vulnerable souls.

    Alzheimer’s Disease is a double loss for love ones as it takes an individual’s memory first before the body physically surrenders.

    As others have said, that twelve string appears to be providing you comfort. It’s common for individuals with dementia to retain musical recognition. Janet, if you have the opportunity, you might want to play for him.

    Nice rendition of this John Prine tune.

    • JanetW

      October 8, 2023 at 3:57 pm

      Thank you!

  • Loraine

    October 8, 2023 at 7:29 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing @JanetW . You did a eautiful job with playing the 12 string and performing the song. It sounded great on the Taylor.

    I’m very sorry to hear the news of your father’s alleged friends stealing from him and taking advantage of him, especially when his faculties were jeopardized because of the dementia. I was a caregiver for years with my mother who had Lewy Body Dementia and was.unable to defend herself and very easily could have been a recipe for disaster with others taking advantage of her condition and inability to make intelligent decisions and choices. I jad to eventually place her in a memorycare program too.

    I am happy that you found th3 12 string and it will receive some TLC and usage.

  • peter_m

    October 8, 2023 at 7:45 pm

    Wow JanetW,

    Thanks for sharing, and i am so glad you found at least one of your Dad’s guitars and shared yourself playing it. It is so hard to take when your parents fade away from losing their memories. My mom died in 2019 after fading away from vascular dementia, and my 92 year old dad has been losing his mind to Alzheimer’s for the last 3 or 4 years. I hope you and your sister were able to share some good memories while you cleaned out the house. Cleaning out your parent’s home is really difficult. it is like giving away your own memories too.

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